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in. On the last date I had in Paris, we spent the day strolling along the Seine on a sunny summer day.
The man I was seeing, a year-old business student, was a typical caricature of a French man: elegant and a bit shy, but constantly smiling. We began the morning with a visit to the Louvre before stopping for ice cream and continuing to wander the city for hours, talking without interruption. Once settled in my single room in Silicon Valley, I decided that I was ready to meet some American men.
Meeting people in France generally goes by the old-school method: dating friends of your friends, my dear! And yes, for those not comfortable enough to make the first move in public, dating apps are an option, but definitely not our favorite.
Almost instantly after hitting Create, I was thrown into the Bay Area dating jungle.
Dickxhibitionists and lame pickup lines were coming at me fast. So creating a profile on Tinder was a first for me. These interactions were completely new to me. Once my identity as a French woman revealed itself in conversation, I experienced the most stereotypical exchanges of my life.
It was like having the same nightmare over and over again, and turns out, it was just the petits fours. For a long minute, I regretted downloading Tinder.
This unashamed sexual pressure was completely new and weird. He suggested we go to his place. I was unclear if this was normal for a first date in America, but in my gut, I knew it was purely an invitation to have sex. For whatever reason, I went forward with the date with Andre.
We decided to meet at a bar in Mountain View.
I had to repeat what I was saying a couple of times, every time I spoke. If it was torture for me, but my date seemed to enjoy it. While we were talking, we ran into a few misunderstandings. Thank you—next. At home, I always knew where I stood with someone. This is a reputation American men hold overseas that turns out to often be true—that they ghost, date many women at the same time and have commitment issues. But a piece of advice for American men: be honest with what you want, and stop wasting our time.
French writer based in the Bay Area.
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